Success Is A Constructive Attitude
By Saleem Rana 

The opportunity for your success is everywhere.  Once you have begun the work of affirming your own self-esteem, once you create your goals, and once you take a few steps to get more of what you want and deserve, you'll notice all types of coincidences guiding you to success, coming from all different directions.

You need learn only a few success principles before you find things working out for you.  Along your journey of success, you will certainly discover your own success principles, and you will certainly find your own way to apply them.

Here's an open secret:  the world out there does not reward or punish you.  You cause your own experiences, because you have expectations of how your life should be.  If you didn't have all those expectations, you would have much less resistance to life.

It is possible to learn to accept the way things are and to love your own role in changing them to be better.  Yet you have to learn to accept what is before you can hope to make it more the way that you want it to be.  Life is a never-ending dance of changes, and you have to learn to dance in tune with them.

Your work and your play, your relationships and your friendships, your personal desires and the collective will, all these add up to make up the dance of your life.  When you learn to dance with those you meet, instead of struggling to make them over in your image, you will be dancing in partnership with others, and you will enjoy yourself more and fight less, and you will avoid creating the emotional dramas that leave scars.

Dancing with others means letting go of all forms of control.  It means not trying to dominate them.  The traditional relationship model of a dominator creates endless conflict, and complex and inefficient relationships.  The other alternative is a partnership.

Enjoy a partnership with your co-workers, colleagues, with your family and friends, with your spouse and children.

Your success, then, is based not on what you know, or even who you know, but based on how you respond to experiences, both those you have created and those that others have created for you.  Anyone can be successful when their expectations are met and when others comply with their wishes, but this rarely happens.  It takes much more will and effort to take what is within you and outside of you and make the best of it, and even improve on it.  Now that is success.

Who you are is a creative force.  And this creative force is constantly getting feedback from its environment.  This feedback is both positive and negative.  The trick is to get the edge and to make good things better and to quickly resolve bad things, either putting them behind you or turning them around to help you rather than hinder you.

What makes life a struggle is resistance to it.  Bad things happen to good people, too, and your best bet to live a successful life is to work on constantly being a constructive force, because you have the power to interpret experiences and decide on your best direction.

It's not always about getting what you want the way you want it.  It's about taking what is out there and making it work for you. 

It's not about trying to be like someone else who has what you want or does something better than you.  It's about being the best you possible.

It's not about bad things never happening to you.  It's about turning them around and either putting them behind you as quickly as possible or turning them around to yield a greater good.

Success, then, is about your using your mind and will to be constructive, life-affirming, and a contributor to the welfare of others.  And to do this, you have to use everything that is within you and around you to forge a sense of direction worth pursuing.